This is the fundamentals behind what you're trying to achieve:

From here:
https://www.grc.nasa.gov/www/k-12/airplane/otto.html#:~:text=Stage 2 begins the compression,and the process repeats itself.
The two axis are pressure and volume.
The integrity of the volume of your engine is ideally going to be a constant. That is, you haven't had a cylinder leave the chat. Likewise, your ability to make pressure should remain constant - again, this assumes the integrity of the head, block and most importantly - the head gasket between them.
In the diagram above, the change in volume is relative to the change in volume of the fuel load (air + fuel). The pressure of that charge changes as the crank moves the piston in the bore and the ignition causes combustion.
The computer that is in the car from the factory uses the parameters programmed into it to monitor sensors to use a known volume to calculate how much fuel to give and at what time to fire the ignition in the diagram above.
If there are problems maintaining the integrity of the data that the computer requires to calculate the fuel load (VE) or the spark timing, then the entire process fails.
Some of those might include:
- An intake leak: This would allow unmetered air to be involved in the combustion event. Too much air means that the car is lean. Leaning out will result in excess heat if the car is running when this happens. Not enough air, the opposite is now true. The car will run rich -fouling the spark plugs and the catalytic converter.
- Incorrect timing: This could happen by mechanical or electrical fault. The timing belt maintains the relationship between the pistons and the valves. If this is out of sync, the intake and exhaust events will not occur during the planned crank angle window for the fuel load planned by the computer. It could also cause the spark to occur at the wrong time which could be catastrophic. Conversely, it may not occur at all or intermittently.
- Incorrect fuel delivery: If the computer can't enable the pump to provide fuel or if there is a wiring or plumbing issue, the fuel load planned by the computer will not be sufficient for the work to occur given the load it has observed using airflow and the engine speed.
You need to consider these things and use the suggestions in this thread to find the point in the process that is failing in your vehicle.
It isn't sorcery. It is a practical science that is relatively easy to master. You might even find a way to make the little one's life better if you can wrap your mind around it.
Finally, remember that while we are here to cheer you on and give you a hard time...
Ultimately, no-one is going to save you but you. You have to determine that today is the day this POS will run again. Then go out there and do it. And if you fail today, get up tomorrow and do it again.
Good luck! I hope that you make better decisions today!